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How to grow and achieve (we must first heal life trauma)

September 29, 2016
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In the quest for personal growth and goal-setting, we don’t talk about trauma enough: how it impacts us, how to recognize it in ourselves, and how to heal from it. We tend to think of it applying only to people who’ve been victims of crime, major natural disasters, wars, or the violent loss of loved ones. But trauma can happen from less dramatic events, too. It can happen when someone we trust shames our body. It can happen when we…

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Agnostic spirituality Perseverance Personal Growth Resilience Video

Everything does *NOT* happen for a reason, but we can be happy anyway

September 27, 2016

The tragic story of the woman in this video moved me so much. I don’t think I will ever forget it. Sometimes, when I am feeling so hard done by, I think of people I know who have experienced much harder lives and I feel grateful and humbled. I’ll add this woman to the little corner of my heart where I keep these stories. I don’t relate to or subscribe to her religious feelings. I share the video for three reasons:…

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Memoir 1/80: The Young and the Restless Experience the Days of Their Lives

September 20, 2016
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I am working on several goals right now. One is to be able to do 10 push-ups without my knees as the pivot point. A few goals are creative projects, liking finishing my children’s book. A much tougher—eh, one might even say excruciating—goal is to finish a memoir. I read David Sedaris’s and Jeanette Winterson’s work and they describe their memories of their childhoods vividly. Is it really possible that Sedaris remembers conversations so exactly, or does he take some creative licence? When we…

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How to jump-start your life by jumping off a bridge

September 19, 2016
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I am doing a series on inspiring people who are changing their lives through trying new things, persevering, and overcoming obstacles and heartbreak. This interview is the second in the series. If you know someone I need to interview, or you have your own story you’d like to share, contact me and be the reason someone loves their life all over again (or maybe even for the first time). Kym loves to shout at women to reach for their goals…

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Feminism Personal Growth Resilience Social Justice

Finding the balance between “positive mindset” & social justice

September 16, 2016
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Content/trigger warning: The second paragraph discusses some vague instances of child and spousal abuse and briefly references a violent incident that could trigger trauma in a person who has experienced violent abuse. To be clear: I am not a counsellor. I am not formally trained in psychology. I have been reading books about psychology and self-help since I was 12, intently studying human psychology by observation since I was seven, and I studied psychology in university. At age 12, I began…

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Resilience Self-worth Vulnerability

How to deal with vulnerability hangovers + my source of worthiness

September 14, 2016
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Glennon Doyle Melton is making the circuits right now for her book Love Warrior, which I am excited to read in my cushy white bed with some cheese and wine and chocolate, in my clean white room, with no one asking me to do anything. So, I guess I should buy some wine. And… clean my room. I didn’t like Lewis Howes’ School of Greatness podcast at first. The intro is loud and obnoxious and he kinda over-promotes his stuff in the…

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Gratitude Personal Growth Resilience

Why finding a dead body was the best thing to happen to me in years

September 10, 2016
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Content warning: death; semi-detailed description of a dead body in third paragraph. Disclaimer: I post this at Lynne’s encouragement. On July 31, 2016, I found my 79-year-old mother-in-law, dead on her bathroom floor, half naked. We received a call from Jean’s friend that Jean was unreachable for days, which was unusual. Lynne asked me to check if she was okay. They were estranged for good reasons, so whether she was dead or alive, Lynne wasn’t prepared to see her. I knew I had…

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LGBTQ Love & Sex Perseverance Personal Growth

Why some people take so long figuring out they are gay

September 9, 2016
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This morning, Elizabeth Gilbert let the world in on the tender and vulnerable reason for her divorce from the man with whom she fell in love in Eat Pray Love. Another love of her life, her best friend, Rayya Elias, is dying. And the realization that she will lose her dearest friend caused the immensity of that love to make itself known. What a wonderful and terrible time for her. So much confusion about sexuality and love keeps people from realizing…

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Food Lifestyle

Hibiscus underwear drawer yogurt breakfast

September 6, 2016
cahoots hibiscus yogurt

We’re making a lot of changes to our diets over here. Nothing dogmatic and fear-based like, “I can’t eat any sugar ever, or I’ll get fat and get cancer!” or “I can’t eat any more animals ever or I am a bad person!” Rather, some mindful efforts here and there to feel good in our guts, have more energy, and feel better about our footprint on the planet. I really dislike runny yogurt. Yogurt should have as much milk fat…

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Gratitude Perseverance Personal Growth Resilience

Gratitude: lighting the pathway through difficulty by the glint of silver linings

September 5, 2016
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I got on the gratitude bandwagon when I was 17, with Sarah Ban Breathnach. After an appearance on Oprah, her book Simple Abundance was a massive best seller, with its own cultural moment. Every day, I wrote out five things for which I was grateful. It was fun and pleasant at first. I enjoyed filling the pages dutifully with my best penmanship, only using the same black Uniball rollerball micro pen every time. But eventually, the arbitrary requirement to do it…

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